Your vibe attracts your tribe
I love this quote for the meaning it has taken on in my life. Only recently has it become so relevant and true. Until now, I had a different view on friendships and connections.
I grew up as a social butterfly, hopping around friend groups, and always wanting to be in the center of the action. On Friday nights, I would experience serious FOMO (fear of missing out) as I had to decide among different events going on. My habits around friends displayed my belief: the more, the better.
A lesson I think many of us learn as we grow older is friends come and go. People move in and out of your life for various reasons. In the end, we may only have a few people with whom we truly connect. Some refer to this group as your ‘tribe’.
International teaching and living abroad brings a handful of challenges. Friendship is certainly part of it! When we first moved to Colombia, it was not easy to be thrown into a new setting surrounded by new people. I struggled to make connections, express myself, and feel confident in pursuing new relationships. Last school year I felt quite disconnected, floating alone.
Over the last nine months, I have devoted time, energy, and money towards getting to know myself, healing wounds from the past, and stepping out into my fullest, expressed version of myself. It’s been messy, it’s been painful, but yes, it’s been worth it.
You may not agree at which comes first, but I do believe I have attracted certain people into my life. Since I have been living with less fear, shining my own light, new friendships have come into my life. I have found deep connections with people, even if I don’t see them very often. After a year of solitude, this feels intensely satisfying. I have recovered a sense of belonging that I had lost. I have built a small group of fellow warrior women who I’m certain feel the same as I do.
We all attracted one another.